Today I have decided is going to be a lazy day. It's rainy and miserable outside; though the rain is doing wonders for my garden. But everyone is a little stir crazy from being couped up the past couple days; the dogs especially. So we're going to keep it low key, watch some movies, read some books, maybe paint/color some pictures this afternoon.
It's funny really how crazy we all get. We spend the majority of the winter indoors and it's no big deal. But then summer comes around and we spend as much time as possible outdoors, soaking up the sun, exercising, and in general just trying to be outside that when we get to a stretch of a couple days where we have to be inside, everyone goes a little nutty. The munchkins start bouncing off the walls, the dogs won't stop trying to wrestle the adults get a little wiggy with all the noise indoors. We all lose it just a bit. Then the next day the sun comes out and everyone is forced outdoors where the kids can be as loud as they want, mom can get somethings done around the house without everyone in the way.
On the plus side, school is officially out so Autumn and Amanda can come over during the day and the girls can play, expel loads of energy in the back yard. And with the "fence" across the driveway now the dogs can come out and we don't have to worry about anyone going to far down the driveway to the road. It's not really a true fence like what is around the rest of the yard, it's technically a rabbit fence for the garden but it's easy to move with it only being held in place by a few wooden stakes, but it's also enough to keep the dogs and children in the yard which is perfect!
So I have a dilemma I was up contemplating most of the night that I could use some objective opinions on. We are about 99% sure we know who it was that robbed us the beginning of May, but there was nothing the Police could do without some reason for him to do it. A fight we had gotten into or something like that, or until the fingerprints come back. But last night I got some information that he was in the hospital, apparently he was admitted for alcohol poisoning. Now he used to be a good friend of ours so there is a part of me that wants to go see him and make sure he is ok, on the other hand there is a part of me that says he seriously betrayed my trust and friendship so does he really deserve my kindness. I don't know and I still can't come up with an answer. I guess I'll just have to ponder a bit longer.
You asked for objective opinions, so here goes...You said this person is in the hospital, possibly for alcohol poisoning. RED FLAG, RED FLAG! Shows me that he has some very serious issues. Not exactly the quality of person I'd want to spend my time with. This after suspecting him of violating you and your personal space and belongings. Seems to me that this person has problems. Seems to me that this person violated you with no regard to any emotional bond he may have had with you. Why would you consider going to see him in the hospital, giving in to the emotional bond you once had with him, only opening the door to the possibility that he will continue his pattern of having problems, which he has no problem bringing into your lives. Do you really need that? Is this someone who is a true friend, someone who is capable of violating you in such a personal way? Sometimes we just have to cut our losses, and with friends like that, who needs enemies? You need to pick your friends by the quality they add to your life, then you will have better friends and a higher quality of life.
ReplyDeleteCan you say "dysfunctional"? Let him get some much needed help and get his life straightened out before you let his dysfunction effect your family again. He may get his act together, and if he doesn't then why would you allow that kind of craziness back into your heart. He has some work to do before he's worthy of your friendship or your forgiveness.
ReplyDeleteI am inclined to agree with the two other comments... you do not need this type of person or energy in your life. However if you are truly feeling you would like to do something how about getting on your knees...yes I am suggesting you pray for him. He needs help to heal and you could pray that he gets it.
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