So happy!

I got the sweetest card in the mail today and I am so excited now because of it!

Background real quick...

Christmas Eve 2009 Matt finally proposed to me and I was so excited! i was so happy we had finally made that level of commitment to our relationship;not that having a baby together wasn't significant commitment but proposal for marriage is different. All my friends were excited, all our friends were excited and I thought this would be so much fun to plan a wedding and have a great time putting ideas together with friends and family.

Unfortunately, my family was a great deal less than enthusiastic. Now I will grant you that in my head I had a bit of a movie scene reaction expected, so I had probably set my expectations too high, but if you don't shoot for the stars then you'll never potentially be able to reach them right? Then some time after that we had a few hiccups, but realistically what couple doesn't? At which point a number of people in my family felt it necessary to point out to me that my relationship wasn't the type that should be continuing on into marriage; and while no I don't believe any spoke those exact words, some with similar concept were uttered.

Now I had mixed feelings, wasn't quite sure how I felt, I loved my other half but I was devastated at the fact that my family was continuing on this path of we don't like him and regardless of whether or not you're happy we're not going to like the situation. Then the only solace I found in my situation was that after the fog cleared my darling and I had determined that we really were meant for each other. And that like any normal two adult couple where both people happen to be strongly opinionated, and even more strong willed, we were bound to have arguments, disagreement and times where we really wanted to rip each other apart. But on the plus, any couple that thinks they can get along through life, specifically marriage, without ever having an argument, disagreement, spat, pick a descriptor, was delusional and we live in the real world where schmit; as others have appropriately termed it for reading etiquette, happens.

After that the majority of my focus was turned to school and trying to finish up my degree so I really didn't do too much thinking and or attempting to plan for the wedding. In fact up until a few months ago we really hadn't even come to an agreement as to when we wanted to have the wedding; though the majority of that was due to trying to figure out when and how we are going to pay for it.

Back to a bit more present...

Now that I am out of school I have had the time to start looking into possible venues, methods, decor, dresses, cakes, the whole enchilada! But every time I got some really great ideas I kept coming back to, wow no one in my family has shown even the remotest bit of interest or excitement per the wedding. Matt's had mentioned possibly having the wedding at their house, which Matt instantly said no, he wants more than just the back yard wedding. So I started looking into places where we could have the sunrise wedding with the wonder breakfast buffet like we want. Now the only hard part has been again trying to figure out the logistics. How many people are going to come? Where is it going to be? Where will the reception be? And the questions are seemingly endless. But there is always one question that for the bride to be is a particular one, what is my dress going to be like?

Now I have some ideas and I've seen some things in galleries and on TV but in the same I'm not a person who likes to spend a whole ton of money on something that isn't going to get much use. So the idea of buying a wedding dress was well I'll find one I like but I really don't want to spend a lot. Then it was well, who is actually going to go shopping with me? But thanks to today, both problems are solved and there is an added bonus that I get to have a family member who wants to be involved!n As I mentioned before I got a card in the mail today, it was from my grandmother. She has circled the date that Matt and I picked for the wedding and mentioned that when my aunt got married that my great grandmother bought her wedding dress, so she would like to do the same for me. I'm so happy and so excited that she wants to be a part of the dress process. So now in the next six to eight months I am going to take a trip to see her and she and I, maybe an aunt or two or even three, possibly even my cousins can all go out and go dress shopping!! I'm so excited and now full re-motivated to trying to work out the rest of the details and get ready to have a fabulous wedding in 2012!